Post by moonfisher on Sept 24, 2010 11:03:32 GMT
I'm a 44 year old female born in The West Midlands and now living in Cumbria.
I'm a huge fan of Shane's work and am currently enjoying watching This is England 86 with my husband and two sons aged 20 and 17.
I was 17 in 1983 and 20 in 1986...his depiction of life at both of those times is so accurate to me. When I first saw This is England I raved about it for weeks, I told my 41 year old brother to watch it too...it took me right back to a time in my life where I felt both happy and downright miserable. Since This is England 86 started I've been answering questions about what life was like, back then, by my sons...they want to know if it was really like that and I honestly answer "yes it was"
The episode that aired on 21st September was hard for me to watch...I managed to stick it out until the end but I didn't sleep well that night because my head was all over the place with memories. I had a friend, back in 81, with a creepy dad, the friend was male...none of us liked being in the house with his dad even if we in a group because he was lewd...one day he got out a huge vibrator and started trying to touch us with it and laughing...he had an erection while he was doing it...I was only 14 and I was just learning what was what about sexual behaviour...he would rub himself up against us and try to kiss us if he ever got us on our own, it was vile...I always felt scared around him but didn't want to let on.
At 18 I was the victim of unwanted attention and I was too scared to report it because it would have been my word against his and I was too scared to face people not believing me...When Trev had to go through her ordeal (on Tuesday night) I was crying uncontrollably as I remembered both occasions in my own life...they were both frighteningly realistic...after watching I felt the need to talk about my experiences...for the first time in over 30 years I wanted to...I felt able to cope with it too and I really hope others like me felt the same...it was so carefully done...I will watch with great interest next Tuesday to see the outcome...part of me hopes justice is taken into the hands of others, apart from the law...but a bigger part of me just wants this issue out there, being discussed...more people need to know what it's like to be in that situation and how it can destroy lives.
I didn't allow it to destroy mine and I was fortunate enough to move on and have been happily married for 22 years and in the same relationship for 24...my husband knows all about my past and he was sat right next to me, holding my hand, as I watched poor Trev suffer as I did.
Thank you for having the nerve to tackle this Shane...it needed to be addressed and you did it so well...thank you X
I'm a huge fan of Shane's work and am currently enjoying watching This is England 86 with my husband and two sons aged 20 and 17.
I was 17 in 1983 and 20 in 1986...his depiction of life at both of those times is so accurate to me. When I first saw This is England I raved about it for weeks, I told my 41 year old brother to watch it too...it took me right back to a time in my life where I felt both happy and downright miserable. Since This is England 86 started I've been answering questions about what life was like, back then, by my sons...they want to know if it was really like that and I honestly answer "yes it was"
The episode that aired on 21st September was hard for me to watch...I managed to stick it out until the end but I didn't sleep well that night because my head was all over the place with memories. I had a friend, back in 81, with a creepy dad, the friend was male...none of us liked being in the house with his dad even if we in a group because he was lewd...one day he got out a huge vibrator and started trying to touch us with it and laughing...he had an erection while he was doing it...I was only 14 and I was just learning what was what about sexual behaviour...he would rub himself up against us and try to kiss us if he ever got us on our own, it was vile...I always felt scared around him but didn't want to let on.
At 18 I was the victim of unwanted attention and I was too scared to report it because it would have been my word against his and I was too scared to face people not believing me...When Trev had to go through her ordeal (on Tuesday night) I was crying uncontrollably as I remembered both occasions in my own life...they were both frighteningly realistic...after watching I felt the need to talk about my experiences...for the first time in over 30 years I wanted to...I felt able to cope with it too and I really hope others like me felt the same...it was so carefully done...I will watch with great interest next Tuesday to see the outcome...part of me hopes justice is taken into the hands of others, apart from the law...but a bigger part of me just wants this issue out there, being discussed...more people need to know what it's like to be in that situation and how it can destroy lives.
I didn't allow it to destroy mine and I was fortunate enough to move on and have been happily married for 22 years and in the same relationship for 24...my husband knows all about my past and he was sat right next to me, holding my hand, as I watched poor Trev suffer as I did.
Thank you for having the nerve to tackle this Shane...it needed to be addressed and you did it so well...thank you X
